Talk about sex
Sex should feel good – before, during, and afterwards. This means that if you want to have sex, you need to pay attention, listen and read other people’s signals.
If you are not sure what the other person wants, you must ask them to make sure that you are interpreting the situation correctly. Don’t guess. At worst, guessing can lead to you doing something against another person’s will that violates or hurts them. By doing this, you also commit a crime.
A good way to find out what someone feels is to talk to them. Ask them what they want and what they like. Another way is to watch and listen to their body language, facial expressions and tone of voice.